First, let me apologize for all of the oven analogies. 3 days in a row, Julie? Seriously? I know.
In my first post about my oven, I mentioned that it’s insane and turns itself off. just as it gets up to temperature. This-morning I was thinking about how annoying that is. Especially when I have a dozen extra people here that I’m feeding, and I’ve gotten up an hour earlier than usual to get the egg casseroles cooking, and after about 2 min at cooking temp, it spazzes out and turns off!!! AAAARGH!
I tend to avoid confrontation. I don’t like being around people who yell. When things heat up, I shut down. I back away and try to get out of there or defuse the situation as quickly as possible. While I am not so sure that this is a *bad* thing, I’ve been told that it’s annoying. I have no intention of becoming a fighter/yeller, but I do think I need to be better about this. On the rare occasion that I get upset with my precious husband, I tend to back off and stop talking. Actually, I know quite a few people who employ this tactic of conflict resolution. While this does manage to keep a fight from breaking out, the issue doesn’t get resolved. It just festers and later pops up in a different area. In between the time that I suppress my issue and when it comes up somewhere else, it somehow grows and tries to sneak out through snippy comments or little digging remarks. Next thing I know, I’m completely livid about every little thing… TOTALLY unnecessary!
I hereby resolve to be better about resolving issues. If it’s big enough to be upset about, it’s big enough to adress. Otherwise, let it go.